My husband and I have been together for 7 1/2 years. In that time we have seen grandparents die, friends move away, hardships of an economy, marriage of friends and of course the birth of our beautiful daughter.
Zach and I too have recently found the Lord. We make this the foundation of our marriage and the way we live our life. I guess it just felt right at the moment we knew we wanted to farm because a lot of time farming and God go hand in hand. This is what makes decisions in our life so much harder.
We have a very strained relationship with his parents. Although I prefer not to into detail (plus it would take me hours), Zach and I have finally said "enough". But leading up to this time has been many arguments between us, morals compromised, and sadness. We have a great marriage and I'm so blessed to have him in my life but dealing with issues with his parents, brings out a lot of negativity in us because they "just do that to people".
So my blog today was: How do you know when enough is enough and its time to walk away? I'm writing this because it has taken us 7 years in the making to answer that, and it has loomed over us for too long. I think for me the turning point was when my daughter became involved. When I felt like she was being used for my in-laws to get what they want, it was time to step back and see what was going on. After much praying (MUCH PRAYING), we feel that the best and safest thing for our family is to not associate with them. I know many families deal with in-law issues and its hard. In a way you feel guilty, but then in another way you feel relieved. I wish things were different, but I accept the things I cannot change.....its taken me years to finally say this. And please know I am not writing this looking for sympathy, for I am not sorry, sad, or even mad at this point. I accept this issue in my life and we choose as a family to remove it before it does further damage.
I hope someone finds to courage to accept the things in their life they cannot change. Its a comfortable place, a familiar place for some. Its a place where you can be yourself and focus on your dreams. Its a place where people do not judge and no one is critical. Its a place I choose to be......and maybe you one day too.